I learned the hard way that I cannot always count on others to respect my feelings - even if I respect theirs. Being a good person doesn’t guarantee that others will be good people. You only have control over yourself and how you choose to be as a person. As for others, you can only choose to accept them or walk away.
It shows a lack of integrity & a low self esteem, in my opinion. And honestly, why would you want to be friends with someone who has proven that they don’t care about you? Because you either harbor feelings for them or you feel like you have no one else you can turn to. Either way, remaining close to that person isn’t ever going to bring you the type of answers you want.
It shows a lack of integrity & a low self esteem, in my opinion. And honestly, why would you want to be friends with someone who has proven that they don’t care about you? Because you either harbor feelings for them or you feel like you have no one else you can turn to. Either way, remaining close to that person isn’t ever going to bring you the type of answers you want.
Anonymous: I'm taking a year off of school right now (more by necessity than choice) and all of these back to school posts are killing me! I miss it so much. I'm trying to branch out, learn new skills and read a lot of books to keep my mind going but I'm still worried that I'm not going to be as smart when I get back to school and I'll fail out of my physics major. I even miss homework. All of my friends are prepping to go back to school and I'm so jealous. And worst of all I dont know what to do about it.
Something not a lot of people know about me is that I took a year off after my first year of college (and now thousands of people know, and that’s okay!). It was such an important year for me. I was in recovery. I grew a lot emotionally. I learned a lot. Matured. Worked a lot. Had fun…It was well worth it and rich in experiences that traditional schooling couldn’t offer. I want you to keep that in mind when you’re feeling jealous of your friends who are going back to school. They’re going to miss out on what you’ll have going on.
You’ll start feeling better once you have a plan. I highly, highly recommend getting a job (even if you can afford not to have one). It will give you a regular schedule, teach you skills, socialize you, give you new encounters and experiences, and compensate you with money. Money is freedom. You can buy yourself things, which are nice to have, or experiences, like travel abroad. Or you could visit your friends at school!
Part of the plan will also be keeping your mind sharp and your self disciplined. Literally create a schedule of courses for yourself. Use Khan Academy. It’s totally free, and you can learn pretty much anything, including standardized test prep. Buy yourself a planner, and structure your time. I cannot emphasize this enough. If you don’t, it will just slip away. Make yourself a learning routine, and stick to it.
Now would be a great time for you to learn a foreign language! You can also take on personal projects, like writing a screenplay, making podcasts, or learning to cook Korean food! Also consider volunteering or getting involved in activism. Your time is valuable to others too!
I wish you the best of luck. I’m still here for you if you need someone to talk to about it. Send another ask or DM me.